midnight solitaire

thoughts about love

jmatchuela — Mon, 07 Jan 2008 03:11:24 +0000

Thoughts about Love

I just realized that the One who loved you so much, is also the one whom you loved so much and in the end, will also be the one to bring so much hurt and pain when everything is over, and as i was always saying ” In this WORLD nothing is permanent, not even the kind of love we felt for someone, it might fade away with just a blink of an eye, just like a software that has been uninstalled and will be erased from the whole system, and the least thing to do is to cherish the time you have together, so that when everything is over… you will only leave each other with countless happy, unforgettable moments, and the truth that the person might have hurt you, but let’s face it, it’s not their fault if they fell out of love. and that certain person will always have a place in our hearts, for that matter there will be no bitterness, and everything will fall back into place as a new butterfly lands in our hand, coz’ in anyhow ” there’s a reason for everything” and one reason would be that we might be destined for someone else, for someone better vice versa. And in the end when all the wounds have healed, when everyone’s forgiven, one thing is for sure. Everyone of us have learned a lesson and in some ways use it as we go on in LIFE ” Love is Lovely, “because it makes reality finally better than dreams” but Love is also tragic because someone has to be hurt for someone to be happy, but still love is fair, because it gives everyone a chance and a choice to be happy or to be a fool.

SIGNS

jmatchuela — Wed, 21 Nov 2007 09:44:49 +0000

10 signs guy is in love

10. You’ve forgotten your ex

More often than not, a breakup is followed by a significant amount of time spent thinking about your ex and wondering whether or not you made the right decision in going your separate ways. Depending on how long the two of you were together, these doubts can resurface again and again. Ever since you met this new one, however, the thought of getting back together with your ex is the furthest thing from your mind. Come to think of it, you barely recall what you found so great about her in the first place.

9. You can’t stop thinking about her

Instead, you are consumed by thoughts of her. She just pops into your head for no apparent reason, and you wonder if she thinks of you half as much as you think of her. You wonder what she’s up to and even consider calling her (but refrain from doing so for fear of looking overeager).

But it gets worse. You’re out with your friends and you see something in a shop window and think about how much she would like that particular item, or you notice a poster for a show that she would love, but normally wouldn’t even have looked twice at it.

If she’s the last thing on your mind before you go to sleep and the first thing on your mind when you wake up â€‘- and you’ve even dreamed of her on a couple of occasions â€‘- then you don’t really even need to read on to know if you’re in love (but should anyway, just to be sure).

8. You care about her

There is a reason why you don’t really want to know too much about the chick you had a one-night stand with: You don’t love her. When you’re in love with a woman, you want to know all about her: who she is, what she thinks, what makes her laugh. You truly care about her and her feelings.

If you truly love a woman, you feel bad if she had a bad day or is upset about something. You don’t try to cheer her up because you have to, but because you can’t help it.

7. You find her quirks charming

The fact that she carries her passport with her everywhere she goes â€‘- just in case â€‘- and that, when she’s eating, she can’t help but construct every forkful so that it’s the perfect blend of ingredients fills you with an inexplicable feeling of happiness.

She does and says things that make her different, and you like it. You can’t quite put your finger on why, but it doesn’t even matter. You like her just the way she is.

6. You have great chemistry

You can’t be in love with someone that you have no chemistry with. If you seem to always be on the same wavelength, and think in similar ways, that’s a great sign. If you also generate enough heat to set off a five-alarm fire bell, then she is probably someone that you could fall in love with, if you aren’t there already.

5. You don’t notice other women as much

Did you see that gorgeous blonde that just walked by? What do you mean, “no”?!?

Although you can’t help noticing a beautiful woman when one walks by, when you’re in love, some of them tend to slip under the radar, while others just pale in comparison to her. Furthermore, you don’t seem to be flirting half as much as you used to.

You are slowly realizing that she’s often the only woman in the room that matters, and for some reason that suits you just fine.

4. You love spending time with her

This one is pretty obvious but important nonetheless. You look forward to seeing her, and don’t care much about what the two of you will be doing. Lately, just going for a walk with her sounds like the best way you could possibly spend an evening.

Furthermore, when you’re not together, you miss her and wish you were spending time together

3. You don’t mind compromising sometimes

There was a time when it was your way or the highway, but with her it’s different. Not that she asks you to, but you don’t mind missing a night out with the guys to be with her. And you find yourself trying to incorporate her into your plans or altering them to accommodate her.

You also find yourself not putting up a fight when she wants to go to Shakespeare in the Park. Although your friends find this very amusing, you know that deep down, they wish that they had found a love like yours.

2. Other priorities take a back seat

You used to train religiously, but lately, if she’s free for dinner, you don’t mind missing a workout. Not only that, but your workaholic tendency of bringing home your work on weekends to get ahead seems a bit excessive to you as of late.

Your ever-important “to do” list seems quite stagnant these days, as being with her always manages to render your other plans and obligations obsolete. What was it that you absolutely had to do by four o’clock again?

1. You start thinking about the future and she’s in it

It used to be that the future with a woman meant your date on Saturday night, but with this woman, the future seems infinite. Not only do you plan to see her this weekend, but you want to see her a year from now as well.

When planning your next vacation, you know you want to spend it with her, and not a random beach bunny you happen to meet while you’re there. And when you get an invitation to a wedding that takes place three months from now, you ask her to be your date without thinking that it’s too far away to tell if you’ll still be together.

She’s the one

If you are currently dating a woman that makes you act in any of the ways mentioned above, then you, my friend, are seriously falling for her. It’s time to put away the little black book for a while and enjoy the ride.

JOKE TAYM

jmatchuela — Wed, 21 Nov 2007 09:43:25 +0000

These are the common things I’ve heard from other people, streets, print and tv ads, events etc…hope u will be inspired, enlightened and learned from it.hehehe.Enjoy reading folks. On Manny Pacquiao….

“Kowts..Kowts. …Kowts” ..Yan and tawag ni Manny sa kanyang coach na c Freddy Roach…
Sa kanyang ice cream tv commercial, tinawag nya ang mga bata..” O mga bata…MIRINDA na”. I was jst wondering kung ano talga ang ine endorse nya, ito b ay ice cream or soft drink…hehehehe. ..

On Restaurants….

“Once u go to OUTBACK (Steakhouse) , u will nver go BACK”. Whaaatt!!! coz its too expensive… hehehe.
When people see a not-so-rich guy/gal buying a venti cup of mocha coffee at Starbucks, people will just stare at u and then say..”Chuchal, bka nagkmali ng binilhan, dapat sa Starbuko – ung 100 percent BUKO JUICE”..hehehe.
It’s always a BIG DEAL if you use a STARBUCKS mug when having your lunch meal against a mug bought from SM Supermarket. “Ur
so sosyal nman, starbaks”.

On Department Stores…

At SM Makati a month ago, there’s two young ladies having their window shopping at the mall when they suddenly stopped to D & G boutique(Dolce & Gibana). Then one lady said, “Oh my..ang ganda naman ng shades na ‘to, kaso ang mahal nman. Then the other lady uttered, “Siempre nman, mahal yan gagah, DOLS and Gibana yan”.Whaaaattt! !! DOLS talga.Nde kya magalit ang may ari nyan sa kanya pag nagkataon. Then I just can’t stop myself from laughing after I’ve witnessed it. hehehehe.

On text messaging…

“Minsan, tumayo ako sa may door…ayun. .nauso ang BOY-NEXT-DOOR” …O ha..O ha!!!!.. hehehe.
“Minsan, may nginitian akong isang tao….ayun. …nahimatay. ..since then nauso tuloy ang KILLER SMILE” Whaaattt!!!
“Minsan, umupo ako sa gitna ng dalawang lovers,…ayun. …nauso ang LOVE TRIANGLE”.
“Being a third party doesnt mean that ur destroying a relationship. ..it only means that you make 2 souls realized that they are not meant to be” Aus!!…i justify b…wehehe.

D hu….

“i tried my best to make it up to u, but u didnt care..now that im gone, u want me to cme back 4 u? …u should’ve woke up earlier 2 see me…”—— -MAGTATAHO
“Cge, umiyak k, pero tandaan mo, una mo akong cnaktan..”– ——— ——— SIBUYAS
“Wag mo akong tapakan, kung ayaw mong masaktan…. .” ———— ——— –BUBOG
“Handa kong ibgay sau ang init ng ktawan n hinahanp mo…at ccguraduhin kong nde k makaka2log.. ..” ———— KAPE
“Sabi ko n nga ba, laman lang ang habol mo sa akin eh…” ———— ——— TAHONG
“Pinapaikot mo lang ako. Mabuti pang ptayin mo n lang ako…” ———— —ELECTRIC FAN
“Hindi lahat ng maskulado ay lalaki..” — VINA MORALES..gasgas n to.

CENSORED…. RATED PG. “Mga magulang, gabayan ang inyong mga anak sa panonood ng programang ito” – BIG BROTHER

“If you think that the shortest way to a man’s heart is thru his stomach….ur
thinking ancient girl!!! That theory had long been gone when **** JOB was discovered!! ! Ayos!!! censored to…PG

On BIG BROTHER SEASON 2 tv show…

Oust Wendy!!!…Oust Bruce!!! – ipagpatuloy nyo n lang yan sa labas ng bhay ni Kuya….init lang yan….hehehe
Bruce, isang maskuladong sunod sunuran sa anino ni WENDY…hehehe
Mickey…..Mr. Poh
Nel…Bongga! !!! Perfect!!!! inluv ke Bruce….waaatt! !!
LOVE TRIANGLES: nel-bruce-wendy. …mickey- ge ann-bodie
Bea….kung tumawa..prang ala ng bukas…hehehe
Ano raw ang pagkakaiba ni BODIE ke BUDDY (aso ni kuya)…ano raw????…eh di WALA…kc parehong diretso mga katwan nila…hehehhe.
Nawala c Pamela sa bhay ni Kuya dahil kinuya n xa ni CHUKKIE….. .Dreyfus. ..hehehe.

REJECTION

jmatchuela — Wed, 21 Nov 2007 09:43:04 +0000

REJECTION !!!!!!

Introduction
“Well, it was really nice meeting you, bud, but I don’t really think we’re a match. Good luck to you though!” –or- “Yeah, it was fun! I’ll call you!” –and then the call never comes.”

Tips For Coping With Rejection
The following are some ideas to help you reframe the way you think about rejection so it doesn’t seem so unbearable. Your negative beliefs can have a strong hold over you because they’re trying to protect you against perceived threat or harm, so some of these tips might inspire an “oh please!” or “yeah right!” attitude. Let your mind be open and pick and choose those that might best fit your personality and style. View any resistance you may feel as an indication that your self-protection mechanisms may have been triggered and refuse to be held victim by them any longer.

• View rejection as a success. The fact that that guy doesn’t want to date you is saving you a lot of time and energy in building something that wouldn’t have worked out anyway. You’ve invested nothing, your heart is safe, and now you can channel your energies into new possibilities.

• Typically, rejection has nothing to do with you; it’s a projection of the other person’s wants, needs, and life experiences. He doesn’t really know you. All he is aware of is what he saw and what you shared with him about yourself, but that’s not the totality of who you are. It’s more about him. It’s not your fault, so avoid personalizing it and realize also that you are not Mr. Right for every guy you meet and vice versa. Most people you date will not be the right guy for you.

• Avoid attaching yourself to outcomes. Approach every date free from fantasy and as an opportunity to meet someone new. If something works out, then that’s an added bonus. Don’t mold yourself into a relationship just for the sake of being in one. Be the chooser!

• A fear of being alone is closely tied to fear of rejection. The more value you place on someone, the stronger the fear will be, so take the emphasis off of him and find ways to value yourself. Discover ways to be “happily single”, independent, and don’t put stock in being fulfilled in your life only if you’re in a relationship. Identify your strengths and recognize what makes you a “good catch.” Cultivate a positive self-image.

• Build your self-confidence by becoming the best “you” you can be. Invest in your personal growth, fine-tune your social skills, take safe and calculated risks, enhance your self-esteem and body image, develop a more balanced lifestyle with purposeful goals that will give you meaning. This will help take the focus off the other guy and put it more squarely on you and living your life to the max to where rejection won’t matter as much to you.

• Whenever you experience feelings of rejection, write down the thoughts you’re having in a journal and work at correcting any distorted beliefs that may be hurting you. Are you condemning yourself? Are your thoughts reinforcing low self-esteem? How are you contributing to your own feelings of rejection? Develop your own personal list of affirmations that will encourage and affirm you and rehearse them daily.

• Most importantly, stop giving emotional power to these men! How do you even know if this guy was really a match for you either? Are you projecting? His saying “no” to another date basically means that your personal requirements for a long-term relationship do not appear to match up. It is the traits, not you! And if a rejection occurs over something superficial, you don’t want to be with that person anyway. Superficiality does not equal long-term sustenance in relationships. Overcome your fear of being negatively judged by having a solid grasp on your vision and requirements to operate from that.

STUPID QUESTIONS

jmatchuela — Wed, 21 Nov 2007 09:42:05 +0000

QUESTIONS people usually askin obvious situations and some equally stupid answers:-

1. At the movies:When you meet acquaintances/ friends
Stupid Question:-Hey, what are you doing here?
Answer:-Well, it’s so hot , there were no cool cabs
so I thought i’d watch some advertisements in
the cool comfort of the theatre.

2. In the bus: A fat girl wearing pointed high-heeled shoes steps on your feet

Stupid Question:-Sorry, did that hurt?
Answer:-No, not at all, I’m on local anesthesia.. …
why don’t you try again or should i try this
time.”

3. At a funeral:One of the teary-eyed people ask
Stupid Question:-Why, why him, of all people.
Answer:-Why? Would it rather have been you?

4. At a restaurant:When you ask the waiter
Stupid Question:-Is the “blah blah blah” dish good
Answer:-No, its teribble and made of adulterated
cement.We occasionaly also spit in it.

5. At a family get-together. When some distant aunt
meets you after years
Stupid Question:-Munna, Chickoo, you’ve become so
big.
Answer:-Well you haven’t particularly shrunk yourself.

6. When a friend announces her wedding, and you
ask
Stupid Question:-Is the guy you’re marrying good?
Answer:-No,he’ s a miserable wife-beating , insensitive
lout…it’s just the money.

7. When you get woken up at midnight by a phone
call
Stupid Question:-Sorry. were you sleeping.
Answer:-No. I was playing cricket for India at
Sharjah and just when you called Salim Malik
was betting with me that Pakistan would
win. What do you think?

8. When you see a friend/colleague with evidently
shorter hair
Stupid Question:-Hey have you had a haircut?
Answer:-No, its autumn and I’m shedding…. ..

9. At the dentist when he’s sticking pointed objects
in your mouth
Stupid Question:-Tell me if it hurts?
Answer:-And while I’m telling you , you tell me
if I bite.

10. You are smoking a cigarette and a cute woman
asks
Stupid Question:-Oh, so you smoke
Answer:-No, it’s a miracle ………..

it was a chalk and now it’s in flames!!!

read and enjoy

jmatchuela — Wed, 21 Nov 2007 09:40:00 +0000

———— ——— ——— ——— ——— —
If your father is a poor man, it is your fate but,
if your father-in-law is a poor man, it’s your
stupidity.
———— ——— ——— ——— ——— —
Practice makes perfect…..
But nobody’s perfect….. .
so why practice?
———— ——— ——— ——— ——— —
If it’s true that we are here to help others,
then, what exactly are the others here for?
———— ——— ——— ——— ——— —
Since light travels faster than sound,
people appear bright until you hear them speak.
———— ——— ——— ——— ——— —
Money is not everything.
There’s Mastercard & Visa.
———— ——— ——— ——— ——— —
One should love animals.
They are so tasty.
———— ——— ——— ——— ——— —
Save water.
Shower with your girlfriend.
———— ——— ——— ——— ——— —
Love thy neighbor.
But don’t get caught.
———— ——— ——— ——— ——— —
Behind every successful man, there is a woman.
And behind every unsuccessful man, there are two.
———— ——— ——— ——— ——— —
Every man should marry.
After all, happiness is not the only thing in life.
———— ——— ——— ——— ——— —
The wise never marry.
and when they marry they become otherwise.
———— ——— ——— ——— ——— —
“Your future depends on your dreams”
So go to sleep
———— ——— ——— ——— ——— —
There should be a better way to start a day than
waking up every morning
———— ——— ——— ——— ——— —
“Hard work never killed anybody”
But why take the risk !
———— ——— ——— ——— ——— –
“Work fascinates me”
I can look at it for hours !
———— ——— ——— ——— ——— —
God made relatives;
Thank God we can choose our friends.
———— ——— ——— ——— ——— —
The more you learn, the more you know,
The more you know, the more you forget
The more you forget, the less you know
So.. why learn.

deal or no deal

jmatchuela — Wed, 21 Nov 2007 09:34:07 +0000

When Inday meets Kris Aquino

Part 1:
Kris: Magandang gabi mga kapamilya, sa gameshow na ito importante ang sagot
sa nag-iisang katanungang Deal or no Deal. Ang ating player ngayong gabi ay
walang iba kundi ang fastest-rising household services manager na si
Inday! [ume ntra si Inday at nagpalakpakan ang mga tao]

Kris: Ok Inday, choose a briefcase.

Inday: Kris, I would opt for case #4 please.

Kris: Briefcase # 4… si Sharmel. Inday, matanong ko lang, how did you
come up with the number 4?

Inday: Oh, do you really want to know
Kris?

Kri s: Oo naman. I’m sure kaya ko naman
maintindihan yung sasabihin mo eh.

Inday: The number 4 was acquired based on a probability distribution function
that involves integrating up to an area greater than or equal to that
random number which should be generated between 0 and 1 for proper distributi ons.

Kris: Syet. tanong tanong pa kasi eh.

Part 2:
Kris: Ok Inday, choose 6 briefcases to
open.

Inday : I would opt for 7, 24, 12, 2,
15 and 20.

Kris: Wait lang Inday, usually isa isa lang ang pagbubukas natin ng case…

Inday: Why is that? As if I can change the outcome if we’re to open a case
each time I blurt out a number as opposed to opening each case immediately one after the other right?

Kris: Hayyy…babaguhin pa talaga mechanics (bulong sa sarili).

Kris: Anwyay, di bale na lang nga… tuloy tayo. Number 7. Natalie buksan na!!
[Yung audience sumisigaw ng LOWER!! LOWER!!!]

Kris: Teka lang, bago natin buksan… Inday, usually ang mga contestants
naten ay sumisigaw ng “LOWER” every time magbubukas ng case.

Inday: Kris, I guess that’s not the way I was taught in grade school. You
see, I was taught that we should only use the comparative form of the word
or add “ER” to the adjective if we are comparing two things. And since it is
only the first briefcase that we are going to open, we have nothing to compare it to. Am I right?

[natahimik ang audience at napaisip]

Kris: Oo nga no!

Part 3:
Kris: Sige Natalie, Buksan mo na.
[Ang laman ng briefcase 7 ay Piso…
Palakpakan ang mga tao]

Kris: Good start! Ano yung next case mo ulit?

Inday: Case number 24 please.

Kris: Chloe… buksan na…

[Audience sumisigaw ulit ng LOWER!! LOWER!!]& amp; lt;BR

Kris: Wait lang guys, Inday may nabuksan ng case baket di ka pa rin sumisigaw ng “Lower”?

Inday: Oh my goodness Kris, how longhave you been doing this? Have youever encountered a value that is lowerthan a peso in this game? Tell me, is there any value left lower than the one we just opened? Sheesh.

[Napaisip ulit ang audience at natahimik]

Kris: Aarrgghh!!!! Chloe buksan na lang nga, pati na rin yung 12, 2, 15 and 20 buksan na rin para matapos na. [naiirita na]

[At sunod sunod na ngang nabukas ang mga case ni Inday] [nag-ring ang phone]

Inday: Ahh Kris, to save more time can you tell Banker that I’m not
interested in his first offer. In the history of this game of chance, I have yet to see someone accept a first offer from the banker. It’s quite pathetic and pretentious for contestants to pause and look around the audience as if asking for advice before ultimately rejecting the first offer. I mean come on, isn’t that a waste of airtime?

Banker: Potahhh!!! [narinig sa set kahit sarado ang kwarto ni banker]
- Ito ang unang pagkakataon na marinig ng mga audience ang boses ni banker sa Deal or no Deal.

Part 4:
… dumating na sa kalagitnaan ng show
at mukhang minamalas na si Inday…

Kris: Ok Inday, mukhang kelangan na natin ng tulong sa mga friends mo… sino ba yung bigotilyong lalaki na naka-polo? Ano name nya?

Inday: Ahh, that’s my master Mr. Montemayor.

Kr is: Ahhh sya pala yun, how cute aman pala eh. Sige sir, give us a umber.

Mr. Montemayor: Hi Kris, good evening.
I’m a fan. I choose number 12 please.

Kris: Ano Inday ok ba yung number 12?

Inday: Whatever, we shouldn’t bite the and that feeds us anyway. Go ahead.

Kris: [taray naman] Sofie, buksan na!
[ang laman ng briefcase 12 ay 5,000]

Kris: Good job! Sino naman yung gwapong lalake na naka jumper na katabi ni Mr. Montemayor? What’s his name?

Inday: Ahh, that’s my on again off again boyfriend, Dodong the gardener.

Kris: Ooohh, sya pala yun. Ok Dodong, give us a number!

Dodong: Hi babes, I choose briefcase 9 if it’s ok with you. If not, it’s ok with me as long as it’s ok with you.

Kris: Ano raw? Inday, number 9 daw ok say0?

Inday : Yes Kris, it’s fine with me.

Kris: Wow ang bait pag kay Dodong. Ederlyn… buksan na!!…nanlaki ang mga mata ni Inday at hindi sya makapaniwala. Natahimik at mukhang kakapusin sya ng hininga…

Inday: YOU!!! How dare you invade my moment! [na gulat si Kris at ang mga audience sa reaksyon ni Inday. Nagpatawag si Kris ng commercial break at nagpakuha ng tubig para kay Inday.]

Part 5:
Nagkatitigan sina Inday at Ederlyn. Nakangis i si Ederlyn habang hawak ang
briefcase ni Inday.

Ederlyn: Pinapangako ko, Inday… pagbukas luluhod ang mga tala! hahahahaha!

Inday: What? Can you speak up? What are you mumbling up there. Can somebody give her a microphone please?

Kris: Ano ba!! Tama na nga ang drama ninyo, Ederlyn buksan mo na ang case at umexit ka na kung ayaw mong mapalitan!

(naiirita na si Kris)Dali-daling binuksan ni Ederlyn ang briefcase at ang laman ay… P3,000,000.

Nanghinayang ang mga audience… Ang mga natirang values ay 250, 1K, 20K, 50K,
and 500K.

Inday: NooOoo…. (sabay tingin kay Dodong at napapaluha), how could you…

Dodong: I’m so sorry Inday, please forgive me.

Kris: Hayyy, drama again. Ang offer ni banker sa pagbabalik ng Kapamilya, Deal.. or No Deal!

[pagtapos ng commercial break… mukhang composed na ulit si Inday]

Kris: Inday, are you okay? Ang offer ni banker ay 99 thousand pesos. ‘Sing rami siguro ng pilipinong pinadugo mo na ilong. Is it a Deal or No Deal? Tahimik lang si Inday tilang may kinocompute sa ulo habang ang mgaaudience ay nagsisigawan ng “No Deal”, ang iba naman ay “Deal”.

Kris: Wait lang, kung mapapansin ninyo we have only have 5 cases left, and among those 5, apat doon ay mas maliit na value…

Inday: Kris, do you mind? Can I do my own thinking? Natameme si Kris, pati ang audience ay natahimik.

Kris: Taray to the max! (pabulong sa sarili)

Inday: Ok, I’m ready. Upon looking at the reality of the situation, 80% of the cases left have at least 49K less than the banker’s offer. The only way I can do better than what is offered is that if my case contains the 500k or I’d get to open one of the four lower values. But I have to keep in mind that there’s only 20% probability that this would happen. I have to take note, however, that the banker’s offer
is roughly around 15% lower than theoffer I expected based on the arithmetic mean of the values left.

Kris: Lorddd… panaginip ba ‘to? Ayokonaaa….& amp; lt;BR

Inday: Accepting a deal for less thanthe mean should generally be regarded
as a weak decision so I would say, NO DEAL!

P art 6:
Limang briefcase na lang ang natitira at kasama na doon ang case ni Inday…

Kris: My God, nakaka-stress itong episode na ito ha. Baka dumugo na rinang ilong ko sa’yo Inday. Sige Inday, go ahead and choose 1 briefcase!

Inday: Ok Kris, I choose briefcase #5 please?
Kris: Briefcase #5! Mimi bago mo buksan yan I would first like to thank Figliarina by Schubizz for my sandals, Bambi Fuentes for my hair and make-up
and Pepsi Herrera for my gown tonight.

Kris: Ok Mimi, buk…
Inday: Ahh Kris, can I also take time to thank a few people? I mean, I did save us a few minutes of airtime right?

Kris: (“kapal naman talaga ng mukha”… bulong sa sarili) Sige, ok lang go
ahead. (naka-smile pa rin)

Inday: Thanks! Yes, I would like to thank Frank Provost for my hair and make-up, Jimmy Choo for my sandals and my dear friend Oscar dela Renta for my gown tonight.

BLAG!! Tinumba ni Kris ang podium at nagwalk-out. Hindi na natapos ang show kaya’t binigyan na lang ni Banker si Inday ng kalahating milyon para sa kanyang oras.

Inday: Oh, and thanks to the people ofCartier for sending me these nice earrings for tonight!

[Ito ang isa sa mga un-aired episode ng Kapamilya, Deal or No Deal]

jmatchuela — Mon, 08 Oct 2007 14:37:29 +0000

if i could give you the “perfect gift”, i’d find a new way to say I LOVE YOU.
sometimes i’m afraid that after saying those words so often they will begin to lose part of their magic.
and yet, i really don’t know any other way to tell you how i feel about you.
so, im hoping that no matter how many times you hear them, you’ll listen beyond the spoken words and understand the feelings my heart wants so much to share….

jmatchuela — Sat, 06 Oct 2007 18:12:22 +0000

this is me..hahaha

jmatchuela — Sat, 06 Oct 2007 18:09:49 +0000

•	View rejection as a success. The fact that that guy doesn’t want to date you is saving you a lot of time and energy in building something that wouldn’t have worked out anyway. You’ve invested nothing, your heart is safe, and now you can channel your energies into new possibilities.
•	Typically, rejection has nothing to do with you; it’s a projection of the other person’s wants, needs, and life experiences. He doesn’t really know you. All he is aware of is what he saw and what you shared with him about yourself, but that’s not the totality of who you are. It’s more about him. It’s not your fault, so avoid personalizing it and realize also that you are not Mr. Right for every guy you meet and vice versa. Most people you date will not be the right guy for you.
•	Avoid attaching yourself to outcomes. Approach every date free from fantasy and as an opportunity to meet someone new. If something works out, then that’s an added bonus. Don’t mold yourself into a relationship just for the sake of being in one. Be the chooser!
•	A fear of being alone is closely tied to fear of rejection. The more value you place on someone, the stronger the fear will be, so take the emphasis off of him and find ways to value yourself. Discover ways to be “happily single”, independent, and don’t put stock in being fulfilled in your life only if you’re in a relationship. Identify your strengths and recognize what makes you a “good catch.” Cultivate a positive self-image.
•	Build your self-confidence by becoming the best “you” you can be. Invest in your personal growth, fine-tune your social skills, take safe and calculated risks, enhance your self-esteem and body image, develop a more balanced lifestyle with purposeful goals that will give you meaning. This will help take the focus off the other guy and put it more squarely on you and living your life to the max to where rejection won’t matter as much to you.
•	Whenever you experience feelings of rejection, write down the thoughts you’re having in a journal and work at correcting any distorted beliefs that may be hurting you. Are you condemning yourself? Are your thoughts reinforcing low self-esteem? How are you contributing to your own feelings of rejection? Develop your own personal list of affirmations that will encourage and affirm you and rehearse them daily.
•	Most importantly, stop giving emotional power to these men! How do you even know if this guy was really a match for you either? Are you projecting? His saying “no” to another date basically means that your personal requirements for a long-term relationship do not appear to match up. It is the traits, not you! And if a rejection occurs over something superficial, you don’t want to be with that person anyway. Superficiality does not equal long-term sustenance in relationships. Overcome your fear of being negatively judged by having a solid grasp on your vision and requirements to operate from that.